I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.
— Audrey Hepburn
All of us experience tough times, sometimes so bad that even survival seems impossible. Under all that weight and darkness, how can you even think about happiness? You may be surprised to learn that you can and you should. Here’s how it’s done.
There is no normal life that is free of pain. It’s the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth.
― The World According to Mister Rogers
Facing adversity can help you become a better person. If you allow it:
A personal tragedy can become your motivation to help others. A few examples of how others have done this:
Everyone’s life is full of good stuff and bad stuff. Sometimes the bad stuff exceeds the good; other times there is more good than bad.
It’s so important not to miss the good stuff!
How many times and in how many ways has this idea been expressed and by how many philosophers, religious leaders, and even self-help gurus? Here is one I especially like:
Live today. Not yesterday. Not tomorrow. Just today. Inhabit your moments. Don’t rent them out to tomorrow. Do you know what you’re doing when you spend a moment wondering how things are going to turn out with Perry?
You’re cheating yourself out of today. Today is calling to you, trying to get your attention, but you’re stuck on tomorrow, and today trickles away like water down a drain. You wake up the next morning and that today you wasted is gone forever. It’s now yesterday. Some of those moments may have had wonderful things in store for you , but now you’ll never know.
― Jerry Spinelli in Love, Stargirl
Even during the darkest times in your life, you can choose hope. You can choose to believe that tomorrow will be better than today, that grief will lessen, that an addiction will be beaten, a new path will open up.
If you want to learn more about how hope can help, I recommend Anne Lamott as a mentor. Lamott’s autobiographical works are noted for their self-deprecating humor and openness. She writes about sensitive subjects such as alcoholism, depression, and single-motherhood. Yet she gifts her readers with an optimistic and life-affirming point of view. The exploration of hope – what it is and how it manifests itself – is a theme woven into almost all of Anne Lamott’s writings. Here are some of Lamott’s most memorable quotes about hope.
Resilience is the capacity to adapt successfully in the face of threats or disaster. Resilience is the backbone of happiness.
People can improve their capacity for resilience at any time of life. Try one or more of these research-backed methods: